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Family Therapy
Why is it that we are hardest on those who are closest to us? Much of the time families just limp along never really becoming the amazing healing force that can make room for every eccentric, flawed member, that can find the love in a painful argument, that can be the support most people only dream of having. A family system is like any other system in that it has moving parts (like people) and tasks to do (like pay the bills and wash the dishes). If you think about it that way you can begin to see that if two people in the system don't speak to each other (she's impossiblle to deal with) or someone falls apart and can't do their part (the litter box hasn't been cleaned) then some repair is needing to happen and tasks reassigned. There also has to be some truth telling and fessing up of the parties holding grudges. Anger usually is a cover for hurt feelings, and family members need to be reminded of the love that lives in the system (yes, love really exists, even in YOUR family). And everyone, if they go see a therapist, will need to admit that they want things fixed.
So....when a family is in crisis grab your opportunity and find a person who can guide all of you and grease the wheels of the systemso that someone has your back in hard times. I know what you are thinking, "She doesn't know my family or she wouldn't be so hopeful." Well, maybe there is no hope, but you won't know if you don't try.
I told him if he kept being mean to his brother he might come back as a rodent in his next life and he shrugged and said that's the chance he'd have to take. -Brain Andrea